A Little Bit of Background…
It’s been a few months since I started this blog and although I haven’t had a chance to get around to it yet, I’ve decided now to give some background as to why I started this blog.
I decided to join the childfree blogging community to voice my opinions, concerns, and frustrations about what it’s like to be childfree by choice. Growing up, I never wanted kids. I don’t even think I liked kids when I was a kid. The few times I played with Barbies, mine never drove a minivan and had a brood. Mine was either a lawyer or a CEO of a Fortune 500 company or pursuing some similar career path.
Fortunately, I have wonderful parents who are fully supportive of my decision. My mother-in-law, well…I still think she thinks that it’s just a passing phase. I know I’m very lucky to have parents that are completely, 100% okay with the life I chose to live. After all, they were the ones that raised me to think for myself and live my life the way I want to, not the way society says I should. I’ve tried to apply this to every facet of my life. What’s sad is that my parents are actually getting pressured to pressure me into “giving them grandchildren.” Luckily, they have enough sense to tell these people (in more polite terms, of course) to f*ck off and mind their own business. Gotta love that.
Anyway, I have absolutely nothing against parents who raise their children properly. Unfortunately, in today’s society, it seems like that is becoming more and more rare. I am against those who feel that they are entitled to everything just because they popped out a kid and have this “hooray for me, to hell with you” attitude. I’m against these kids that have said same attitude (thank you, parents). I am against society trying to tell me that I have to have kids “just because…” It’s the 21st century for f*ck’s sake. I can do whatever the hell I want to.
I guess I decided to start blogging about it because the more I met like-minded people through the online community, the more I realized what I was going through as being CF was exactly what others like me were going through. I didn’t realize it was so common. I guess, in a strange way, it has been somewhat therapeutic “cyber-mingling” with others who feel the same way I do.
To my fellow childfree, my hat is off.
November 21, 2007 at 9:03 am
Me too!
November 23, 2007 at 12:03 pm
My hat is off to you too! We need more childfree folks voicing their opinions and making themselves known!
November 26, 2007 at 1:23 pm
Indeed! Keep up the good blogging!
April 10, 2008 at 10:48 pm
I just found this website and I think it’s great! I live in the Midwest in a state where it seems the “norm” is to get married and have kids. I’m double the freak of nature because in addition to not wanting kids, I’m also 30 years old and 100% single *gasp*. I’m perfectly fine this way, but I believe societal pressures often make me think there is something wrong with me and that my life is not “good enough” because I don’t have a husband and don’t want kids. I’m glad that there is a childfree community out there with like-minded people whose views make me feel more “normal”
July 24, 2009 at 12:45 pm
Cheers to you for being brave enough to stand by your decision and start this blog for others like us. I have recently discovered the childfree community online, and so far it has been a blessing. The other day my parents visited, and while I love them dearly and I know they are not trying make my life miserable, my mother and landlord told me that “something is wrong” with me because I don’t want marriage and children. WTF. It is this exact viewpoint that pushes us childfree people to create these communities where we can feel Normal. Having children (and getting married) is a choice, and I wish more people could realize that. Another thing…I am happy for married couples and parents who are happy, and I may even get married one day, but I do not understand why marriage and motherhood defines some people. Ex: On Facebook, some people’s profiles are ALL about their husband or kids. Nothing about them. They don’t mention their job, hobbies, interests, or anything except “I’m a Mommy and my children are the best they are the best thing that happened to me” etc. (I purposely kept the punctuation out of my example, since they are usually too busy to insert commas. Lol!) Anyway, it’s really upsetting that people feel this way in the 21st Century. There should be more blogs like yours.