Comments on: Add it to the list…

By: Misakyra

Misakyra — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 06:13:01 +0000

I got something similar once. I mentioned that I was CF and looking into sterilization, and the two women I was having lunch with suggested that since it was “such a big decision,” I should wait until I was at least 30, because, you know, “a lot can change about a person between 20 and 30.” Barf.

By: Childfreee

Childfreee — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 13:30:51 +0000

Your response was great! And you know what? There’s a lot of truth to it. There are a lot of people who regret having kids but don’t like to admit it aloud. But sometimes, if you ASK, you will get the truth. I write about this a lot in my blog, but one of the questions I like to ask parents (when I hear them bitching and complaining about parenting) is….”suppose there is such a thing as reincarnation. When you come back in your next life, you are born with complete knowledge of what parenthood is like. Would have you kids in your next life?” 7 out of 10 times, the answer I have received is NO. Most of these people point out that they love their kids, but if they knew what parenthood involved before going into it, they wouldn’t have done it.

And yet they cautious US about regret.

By: Fabulously Broke

Fabulously Broke — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 22:41:48 +0000

Well some people just don’t want kids. How can they not understand that? C’est tres simple…

By: Nik

Nik — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 19:35:30 +0000

My mother in law once told me that she still has my husband’s childhood teddy bear in her attic, “so you’d better hurry up and give us some grandchildren”. Now there’s a REAL reason to have children!Why hadn’t I thought of that before! At the time she already had one grandchild with another on the way. Happily, she’s given up on the bingoing now.

By: poofy_puff

poofy_puff — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 16:43:11 +0000

I just posted this to a thread on BratFree:

Some friends said that I do so much work taking care of my cats, that I “should have a kid”. I explained that with the cats, everything is at MY convenience – don’t have to be on THEIR school or sleep schedules, and can blow them off if I don’t feel like hanging out with them, it’s easier to find someone to look in on the house and cats when we go camping than it would be to find a babysitter or to take a kid along with us, etc. etc. etc. And one of them said, “You don’t mind doing all that once you have a kid, you do those things because you HAVE TO.”

And I said, “But I don’t HAVE TO…etc.”

By: LucyinStLou

LucyinStLou — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:41:09 +0000

I just found your blog through Stepher. Hope you don’t mind visitors! People used to say the “don’t do anything drastic until you get older” line to us all the time. So we did what we thought was the responsible thing and waited and waited. Let’s just say the urge to procreate never kicked in. I really wish we had done something much sooner. Life would have been easier. And all the money saved could have financed a great vacation!

By: stepher

stepher — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 20:20:36 +0000

There’s something on my blog for YOU!

http://s2dolife.blogspot.com/2008/08/clever-chicks.html

By: M.

M. — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 13:15:14 +0000

That’s funny! I usually tell people a variation–I’d rather regret NOT having kids than regret HAVING kids, because the former is only cruel to myself, but the latter would be cruel to both myself and my children. In response, people tell me that that means I would be a wonderful mother.

By: Marlene

Marlene — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 04:52:06 +0000

That is Awesome! Great come back!!