You don’t say?!
In my daily rundown of news articles, I came across a particularly interesting one today on MSNBC.com. While the majority of childfree folks already realize that not having kids eliminates a huge stress that is added to a relationship and see it as an added perk, this is news to many others. And while I agree that not having kids does not automatically mean your marriage will be successful (as I am finding out), it does seem to automatically tip the odds in your favor. After all, sadly, many marriages today are not built on firm foundations and once you add a child into the equation, it can go beyond shaking things up. It’s 24/7/365 work, it’s stressful, it leaves less “alone” time, etc. To put it mildly, once you pop out that kid, your life will never be the same no matter how deep you stick your head into the sand and pretend that nothing’s changed.
Childfree couples (married or not) don’t have that stress and limitations. That doesn’t mean they don’t have others unique to each couple, but they don’t have the child-bearing/child-raising stressors. They have more time to focus on each other, they have more freedom to go and do things as they please, etc. Breeders will call this selfish, but whatever.
By the way, I have noticed quite a few news articles pop up lately on the childfree life, sterilization and whatnot in regards to the struggling economy. Unfortunately, I don’t have time to post on each and everyone of them, but has anyone else noticed the same trend?
May 7, 2009 at 1:04 pm
Hey there! Found your blog through Childfree’s blog and I like it. I’m pretty new to this concept still. I’ve been married for two years and about a year ago I made the firm decision that I do not want children. Hubby didn’t take much convincing, either… Yay! Now it’s just fur and feather babies for us! Nice to find another interesting childfree person on the net. I’ll be readin’!