Back from the Dead

Wow…has it been a while or what?  I want to apologize for my lack of posting for the last few months.  This year has been…let’s just say, not what I expected.  I need to do a little background info and venting so be prepared for a bit of a ride.  First and foremost, I am now single once again.  Basically, my husband and I decided that our relationship was no longer a positive factor in either of our lives.  Fortunately, it was mutual and easy to handle so in the grand scheme of things, it was fairly quick and relatively inexpensive.

I still have the house and it’s been fun getting to redecorate it to exactly my tastes and make it “mine” and not “ours”.  I’m very glad that I have some kick-ass friends and family who have been extremely supportive this whole time.  I can honestly say I’m happier than I’ve been in years.  He was the type who had become extremely controlling, and I’m the type that well, let’s just say, you can’t control.  Give me an “order” and I’m likely going to give you a “F*ck you” look and go do my own thing anyway.  We just ended up being too different.  It was the ol’ growing apart and into two different people thing.   In a way, I feel like I have my old life back.  No one to text me every 5 minutes while I’m out having Wednesday night margaritas with the girls, no one to give me hell if I want to veg out in front of the TV and watch Project Runway, no one to freak out at me if I don’t unplug the toaster in the morning before I leave for work (he had to unplug EVERYTHING each morning, including the televisions and lamps), etc.  It’s been nice.

I think one of the things I’m happiest about is that I have my best friend back.  No, this isn’t one of those philosophical “best friend=myself” deals.  I have reconnected with one of my best friends from college after about 2 years of only sporadically talking to each other via only IM.  “Sam” and I had one of those relationships in college where we were just friends, nothing more, even though everyone else was convinced otherwise, because we did just about everything together and our personalities just mesh really well.  I can’t tell you how many times we’d go to lunch and end up sitting there talking for 3-4 hours.  However, after he finished undergrad (he’s a couple years older than me) he moved to a different state to go to law school about the same time I began dating my now Ex-hubs.  We still somewhat kept in touch but it was hard since the ex-hubs would freak out at the mere mention of Sam or anything having to do with him.  However, about the time things started going downhill in the marriage earlier this year, we somehow got back in touch with each other and it really seemed like we just picked up where we left off.  In the past year, he has moved back down in my general area.  Instead of being several states away, he’s now only 2 hours from where I live.  And while we can’t exactly do 3-hour long lunches anymore, we have had evening IM conversations that have gone that long if not longer and I get the occasional witty text from him while I’m at work.  Even though I’ve got some great girl friends (because we all need those), I think having such a good friend like him helped make these past few months much easier.

And now that I’ve got that mess behind me, yes, I am going to plan to start blogging on a more regular basis once again.  There’s always something to talk about in the childfree world, and it’s somewhat therapeutic for me so I may occasionally throw in a personal post every now and then.

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